This morning at work, I thought about how much I love being married. Of course it has ups and downs, as does everything in this life, but would I ever go back? Absolutely not! For one thing, we are bound in a covenant relationship and can't get out anyways. :)
The word divorce is not in our vocabulary, as it is not an option. It doesn't matter what life throws at us, we will go through it together. As I write this, I am tearing up a bit because I love my husband so much. No, he is not a perfect man. But I am not a perfect woman. There is no such thing! Some days I am raging mad at him, and other days I can't believe how lucky I am to have him. Typical.
I'll never forget when we were on our honeymoon in Maui. We decided to go on a hiking day trip about 2 hours from where our hotel was. Like always, I was all excited and ready to go until a few unplanned things came our way.
A little background before I tell the story: I am the most impatient person in the world, and my husband is the most patient person in the world. If that won't start a good fight, I don't know what will.
Anyways, we started out. I was happy and taking pictures of all the gorgeous scenery on the way. Part of the way was rolling hills as green as Ireland with farms and animals roaming freely around. And then out of nowhere, the scenery changed to barren wasteland as if an extreme fire had wiped it all out. In the back of my mind I was thinking, "How can there possibly be a beautiful national park in all this mess?" Not to mention the road changed to a bumpy rocky nightmare and we couldn't drive more than 15 mph. I tried my best to be positive, but after an hour of driving without seeing any promising landmarks or signs, I finally spurted out, "I think we should turn around! We must have taken a wrong turn." My always patient husband responded, "No, lets keep going, the map says this is the right way." I immediately responded by crossing my arms and having a silent temper tantrum, while looking out the window to avoid eye contact with my husband. Classic girl move and so, so dumb. We sat there in silence while I was fuming because my husband refused to give in to my bratty attitude and turn the car around. Can I just say real quick, WHAT A MAN!!!!!! In the moment I am always angry with my husband when I don't get my way, but what a man to stand his ground. So glad my husband has a damn spine.
So eventually we came across a small shop high in the hills. The lady at the counter said that yes there was in fact a national forest close by, and to keep going! We got back in the car, and after driving 20 minutes, out of nowhere, the scenery changed from brown to lush green. Absolutely breathtaking. I have never seen anything like it. Water so blue you could almost see straight throught it, tropical flowers growing everywhere, and warm sunlight shimmering through the trees. Boy did I feel stupid. I apologized to my husband, and we had the best day hiking together, and will remember it forever.
I need him, and he needs me. Our completely different personalities and ways of thinking compliment each other. When I am having an emotional "down" he is there to comfort me and steer my emotions back in the right direction. When he is struggling, I am his fierce prayer warrior, helping him where I can. It can hurt to be so open with someone, but it also brings healing like nothing else.
Life is such a gift. The ups and downs, the trials, the joys, and everything it brings!
Here is a picture from the hike we took. Worth the crazy drive!